Friday, August 19, 2016

32 Sorry, But I Cannot Go Out With My Natural Hair

Whenever I hear people talk about natural hair I just waka pass because it doesn't concern me. Is it not those with fine hair that even bother to flaunt it?
I was at home the other day when I got a call from a friend that she was having a birthday party and seeing that I just loosened my hair and I am yet to make another one, I gently told her to have fun as I could not attend because I am on my natural hair and she responded with “and so?”

 And so? Okay. Lemme tell you why.😢



     When I was a little girl, I used to dream of the time when my hair would grow waist-length like Rapunzel and I later discovered that it would forever remain a dream. Even as that dream could not be achieved, I hoped for a nice-looking hair at least; something full, soft and in the least presentable. Rather, what I have is a very scanty hair with uneven length and these saloon girls have helped to destroy my front hair with bond such that I look like a 75 year old going-bald mama.

This had made me to quickly make a new hairdo immediately after taking off the old one, or remaining indoor pending when I make a new one. I know it’s important to love one’s self but omo; the sight is not good-looking at all at all. The few times I have dared it, I received questions like “did rat chop your hair?” and so on.

         I have tried to make use of a scarf but it made it worse in the sense that my head looked so small inside it and from afar, it looked like there was no hair inside the scarf even; like I just barbed moro moro and tied a scarf.
When I go to the saloon, the hairdresser usually tries to recommend something for my hair growth, “sister if you use dis treatment your hair go grow and all dis your front hair wey don chop go come out”. My common response is “no be una spoil am before?”


For now, I have pretty much lost interest in the natural hair department and will simply stick to weaves as the former do not work for me. As for those who rock their natural hair proudly like naijasinglegirl and naturalgirlonabudget, I am looking forward to the time when I can be like you.




32 comments

  1. Lool aww. I understand your struggle. Maybe you should cut molo and start again lol

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    1. Aaah! I should cut molo as in sunshine, scrape every every? I'm trying to imagine it and believe me it looks scary. Molo is for two types of girls: girls that have strong hearts and girls with a fine shape of head. As for the stong heart, I have like 50%. The shape of head itself is like 10% in that while trying to look like the girl in African Queen video, I may turn out to look like Abobaku sacrifice.

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  2. Lmao! I just read all your post and they've got one thing in common...."comic relief" you are so funny amd I love how you tell your stories😂
    Seconding what NGOB said....just do a bog chop and start. Kinky hair girls rock!

    www.beautifullyjune.blogspot.com

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    1. It's nice to have you here, June. But molo is not the way to go. If everyone has a beautiful hair, who will get jealous of kinky-haired girls like you and NGOB?

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  3. lmaoo..but i feel you. I'm team relaxed all day girl, ain't got time for the natural squad hussle. Your hair can still grow and be healthy though.
    I shared a healthy hair care regime that also helps grow long hair in my last newsletter, it also works for natural hair. You're just a sign up away from it if you want ;-)

    www.toyinwithfashion.com

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    1. It;s nice to know I'm not alone Toyin. The movement for natural hair by Naturalistas has never been this strong before and I was beginning to feel alone. I'll check the regimen you posted, thanks.

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  4. When you say natural hair, do you mean un-relaxed hair? I used to be uncomfortable with my own hair too cos I have zero amount of front hair (Mine is relaxed). But now, honestly, I couldn't care less. I even pack it all back not minding what people say and trust me, they say a lot but key word here is I DON'T CARE!

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    1. Unrelaxed hair is even harder to maintain I guess. Mine is relaxed and I meant moving out with no extensions et al. I appaud your courage in shunning people and rocking your hair as you like. I will need to borrow some courage from you.

      Meanwhile, it's good to have you here.

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  5. I have full hair and it could be really annoying at times. Believe me, I understand the struggle of not wanting to leave home with your natural hair. Lol. Just as everyone has said, I think you should just start all over again. Would be nice. Enjoyed reading this.
    Laitanbee Blog

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    1. Thanks Olaa, it's nice to have you here. However, remember what they say about half bread... I think I will manage it like that hehehe.

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  6. Hi Cherish,

    Ah, African women and the age-long struggle to retain hair length and health, thank God for weaves and hair extensions.

    Hair glue is a bad idea, but some hair stylists know how to use it properly in a manner that doesn't damage the strands.

    These days, I focus more on the thickness of my hair rather than the length.

    Lol... This post was funny, I enjoyed reading. :-)

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    1. Hello Nedoux, it's a pleasure to see you here. It's good to know you're putting in effort to maintain a good hair. As for me, I don't think that chapter is open. There are so many hair care products in the market and it's difficult having to settle for one, without foreknowledge of whether it'd be good or not.
      *singing* If not for extensions... where would I be?

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  7. I understand your struggle! I'm trying to be natural, but it's still pretty hard to go out with my hair like that, unless it's braided. Oh well. We can't all be the same.

    KacheeTee.com
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    1. Hi Kachee, I hope you and your hubby are doing alright. As you said, there is just something about moving around with your natural hair, especially when it's not fine (with all the #naturalistas going around). One can easily get intimidated ehn.

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  8. I don't like natural hair at all. Mine is too strong so I had to relax it. I can now comb my hair without crying.

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    1. Hehehe... if you feel you can't handle it, there's definitely no crime in doing it your way. We all cannot go natural. I mean, the hair relaxer companies would run out of business now and we don't want that.

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  9. Loool @ is it not those with fine hair that flaunt it? I know exactly how you feel o. Youtube has been a lot of help, that's where I learned about so many styles and techniques that have made me enjoy my natural hair more. Great post, you're so funny. xx

    cocobellablog.com

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    1. Thanks Coco, I'm glad you found the post interesting. I stopped putting any sort of treatment in my hair. When I go to the salon I simply tell the hairdresser 'use only shampoo and conditioner, if you use any other produc you are O.Y.O. because I will not pay.' I'm wary of 'techniques' in using for hair growth becasue I don't want to worsen the already worse technique.

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    2. Thank you Cherish for all your lovely comments on my blog. I live in Nigeria but I go to school in England. And about my follow by email issue, I've rectified it. When you open my site now, there'll be a pop up email form. Thank you so much for pointing it out! xx

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    3. Oh it's my pleasure Coco. You see, we share similar names as my nickname is Cherikoko and yours Coco, so I can't help but like you lol. It's summer right now and I hope you get to relax a bit from the freezer-like weather. I'll check to see the change you made. You're so welcome. *hugs*

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  10. Lmao, I've been able to maintain my natural hair for 3 years now and I love when people stop me to ask is this your hair. For now, I stick to only natural products for my hair.

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  11. Hmmm... that is no easy feat. I believe you should have quite some afro by now. What natural products do you use?

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  12. Lol at 75-year old going-bald grandma!
    Perhaps you could avoid the bond for a while so your hair grows fuller? Maybe you could use wigs for a while.
    I didn't think I could go out with my natural hair just like that. But now I do and there is this air of confidence around me when I'm wearing my fro. May not work for everyone, though.

    PreciousCore.com

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    1. Yeah, I'm trying by best to sweetheart. The problem is that when I go to the salon, the hairdressers do not want to be 'taught their job' and simply promise to do your bidding, while seeking no interference. In the end, after accepting not to use the evil called bond, they subtly say they have no other choice otherwise the hair will not be fine.

      I'm looking in to buying some wigs though.

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  13. LMHO! I had fun reading this. Girl, I love your sense of humour. Natural hair is not for the faint-hearted. Lol. I shared a bit of my Natural Hair Journey on my blog.

    As regards to tying scarf yet your head still looks small.I have a small head too. There are ways to tie a scarf without revealing the shape of your head.

    P.S your blog is beautiful. Fab template. :)

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    1. Oh, thanks for your kind words dear, it means a lot to me I promise. I'm glad you found this very interesting. If you do know ways to tie a scarf without revealing its true identity underneath I'd love to know because I haven't quite gotten around that.

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  14. Lool I want to say sorry but I just laughed so... But I totally feel you. I used to have that same issue with my relaxed hair but now that I have natural hair (not relaxed) my hair feels better and I can go anywhere (well except on bad hair days)

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    1. Oh thanks darling. You're indeed brave to go the unrelaxed hair route. Seriously, this seems to be trending thing these days, unnatural hair is so old-fashioned. I don't think I have the guts though.

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  15. Hey Cherish, you have me laughing out loud with this post. If you're at peace with the hair now and don't want to cut it all off, do you.
    But if you want to do something about it, maybe start with a good trim and regular moisturising. Wear wigs and forget glue. If you're motivated enough you can even do scalp massages with stimulating oils.

    You don't even have to go natural, although it helps with thickness. Not every head of hair can withstand relaxers you see.

    All this only if you want to sha. Some people can't be bothered with hair wahala but I can't help offering some tips.

    Thanks for reading my blog :* :*


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    1. Thanks so much Sandra for dropping by and indeed dropping wonderful tips. It happens that for a long time I stopped caring about my hair and instead opting to wash it when I can, without giving thought to how to take good care of it.

      I really got stunned when I realised there are people who have 'wash days' and spend a whole lot of money on hair care products. It's intriguing but of course, the difference is there. I'll stick with your advise on simply leaving the hair as it is and maybe paying it more attention.

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  16. But wouldn't weaves ruin your hair the more? You just reminded me of when I took off lace wig that was glued to my hair. My entire front hairline zapped. I'm still suffering the effects like 4yrs later now.

    If you ask me, I think you should have a lttle more confidence in your looks. I mean, if you look splendid enough, it might drive the attention away from your hair dont you think?
    That's what I say when i'm having a completely bad hair day. I know my make up and outfit should slay, or I'm staying indoors.

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    1. You mean your hair is yet to recover after four years? Now that is something. I do try to look my best and all but the fact is that there is a self-conciousness about my hair not looking good one bit. I mean rara!

      Besides, I am not excatly a great makeup artist so while I may succeed in putting up a good look some days, other days it just looks like a 14 year old experimenting with eyepencil and lipstick. I hope to get there someday however.

      Thanks a lot for dropping a heartfelt comment Chi and I hope you drop by regularly.

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